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Tis the season… so give!

Tis the season…almost.  As we enter the traditional gluttony of the holidays, we’ve been giving a lot of thought to what we want to get from our friends and family. Actually, the kids have been having this conversation for months already but now mainstream media has finally caught up. Shopping reminders are rolling in like the tides and “Black Friday” and “Cyber Monday” are raising their flags, preparing for the consumer wars soon to rage…

(My apologies. I don’t mean to preach. It’s Frozen. How many Elsa dresses does one girl need!!)

Anyway, as we enter this year’s holiday season, we also want to give thought to what we can give back. We consider ourselves very fortunate to have what we have and we know that there are many others who are not so lucky. With that in mind, this year, in addition to “Black Friday” and “Cyber Monday”, we urge you to keep December 2nd in mind.

December 2nd is #GivingTuesday (http://www.givingtuesday.org/), a day dedicated to giving back.

Seems the least we can do in this, the season of excess (I’m looking at you, 3rd piece of pecan pie! Why must you be so delicious!), is to give “giving” it’s own day. But let’s use it as just a reminder to start giving back more often rather than as a target in and of itself.  Even a little goes a long way to those who need it.

Below is an interesting, thought-provoking TED talk by Dan Pallotta on how we think about giving, specifically when it comes to non-profits. If you have 20 minutes to spare, it’s worth a listen.

Enjoy the holiday preparations. Be good to each other and don’t forget to give. Every little bit helps.

Happy memories!

Liad Spiro

Blinkbuggy COO, Husband to Founder and guilt trip of the day

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Who’s the child here, anyway?

My feelings have been hurt. You see, lately our kids have been very much into mommy. From wanting only mommy to push them in the stroller, to mommy putting them tman-crying-e1375385140592o bed. It often feels like I’m the 4th wheel in this family. The fight over winning mommy’s attention often leads to shouting, tantrums and crying. The kids sometimes get upset too.

Perhaps I am overly sensitive (I don’t deny this), perhaps I’m emotionally immature (my wife does not deny this) or perhaps I’m just a dad who wants a hug. Is that so wrong?

Did I write that out loud?

Well, damn it, it’s true and I’m only a little bit ashamed to admit it. Now that it’s out there, I don’t think I’m alone in this… am I? Do all father’s go through this? I hope so. Not because I want misery to love company but I would take some comfort in knowing that my experience is not an exception to the rule. I’m sure that one day the tables will turn (at least, I was until my mother told me that it only gets worse from here! Thanks Mom!) and I’ll be the one in demand by our kids (or at least not shunned at the door a` la the last scene of the Godfather) but the favoritism has lasted longer than I expected. I’m ready for my turn. I’m sure then I’ll complain about how I can’t get a break.

There’s just no pleasing me… but the least these kids can do is try!

Liad Spiro

Blinkbuggy COO, Husband to Founder and getting in touch with my feelings

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Guest Post by Lisa Stern – Listen/Observe: Advice from a Seasoned Pediatrician

We always love to hear different perspectives and approaches to raising children. It’s easy to forget that “your way” is not the “only” way – we won’t tell the kids! – and that, as hard as it is, it’s sometimes more helpful to let our kids go on their own than it is to step in and lead the way. In fact, in this guest post by Lisa Stern, it’s doctor’s orders.  Lisa is a board certified pediatrician in Santa Monica, CA who spends her days with kids.  We’re thrilled to have her share her perspective on the Blinkbuggy Blog!


Listen/Observe: Advice from a Seasoned Pediatrician

I’m a parent. I suspect you’re a parent too.

And like many people ( parents or otherwise), I usually have an agenda. Whether I’m at work, at home, or with my daughters I frequently go through life with a check list.  I use my over scheduled life as an excuse. We all need to get things done, right? And while it’s useful to have an overall game plan, it’s not always necessary to have an endpoint. Sometimes it’s really great just to observe and listen to our children and not to instruct or micromanage their every move. It’s difficult not to play the role of coach and teacher. Parents often cross the line; it’s hard not to.

My personal and professional experience has taught me that being a good parent means to step back, observe and listen. This advice may go against your instincts. It went against mine.  I see a lot of parents who are tryinLisaStern_1g to make their kids better, faster, more.  We live in a competitive world and parents want their children to have every advantage possible. But the longer I am in the business of working with children and their parents, the more I realize that one of the best parenting skills is to do nothing and simply watch. Watch your toddler play with a toy, watch your child complete her homework (or not), watch your teen struggle with middle-school friend drama.  Watch, and avoid the impulse to fix things. Children develop self-esteem by doing things on their own and solving problems. Trial and error teaches children perseverance. Frustration, and learning how to cope with it, is one of the more important life skills to let your child learn. Think about your adult life. What makes you feel good? All your accomplishments are nice but do they make you feel good about yourself? Being good at something doesn’t mean you have good self-esteem. Remember that the next time you are coaching your child to throw the best curve ball.

It’s a gift to be able to stand back and watch your child’s process.  Take the time to see where your daughters and sons own development leads them.  It will be refreshing and liberating to cast aside your agenda. Let your little ones be themselves, feel comfortable in their own skin and not feel like there is always an endpoint. They will be better off in the long run and therefore, so will you.

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Lisa Stern, MD
Pediatrician, Tenth Street Pediatrics
Santa Monica, CA

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Perspective On A TED Talk: Science Is For Everyone, Kids Included

Our daughter just started kindergarten. I’m still trying to figure out how that happened so fast.

In the first week, we met with her teacher and at one point she asked us, “What do you want your daughter to get out of this year?” One of the first things that popped into my head was an appreciation for science, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM).

Don’t get me wrong.  I’m not expecting our 5 year old daughter to come out of Kindergarten with a PhD. It’s not that I don’t think she could. She’s brilliant, of course, but … oh, never mind… Continue reading

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A New Blinkbuggy Partnership!

We are very excited to announce that Blinkbuggy has partnered with one of our favorite mommy bloggers, Mommy Shorts, to bring you a new series of timely and hilarious emails. Introducing…

Mommy Shorts Milestones, brought to you by Blinkbuggy

By joining forces with Mommy Shorts, we hope to help you remember to collect all the important (big or small!) milestones while adding some laughter to your day through some of Mommy Shorts’ best age-relevant posts.

When you sign up for Blinkbuggy, you will automatically start receiving these emails based on the information you provide.   For example, if your baby is in the 4-6 month range, we’ll remind you this is the time when you may hear your baby’s first real laugh so be on the look out! 

You can start receiving the “Mommy Shorts Milestones, brought to you by Blinkbuggy” emails in two ways:

  • Simply sign up for a free Blinkbuggy account here. That’s it! You’ll automatically start receiving the emails. (This is the one we prefer 🙂 )
  • If you’re not ready to start capturing all of your memories just yet, you can sign up to only receive the emails by completing the sign up form here.

We hope you enjoy these as much as we do and as always, we’d love to hear what you think!

Happy Memories!

The Blinkbuggy Team 

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Facing Your Fears: A lesson from my 5 year old daughter

As a parent, I like to think I have some things of value to teach my kids. If my childhood reactions serve as any indicator, some of those lessons will be accepted with thanks while others will be rebelled against under the inarguable fact that they know better (read: teenager). In the end, I can only hope that the “life” lessons my wife and I try to teach our kids will be heard, if not listened to, and absorbed to come to their aid and guide them when they need them. Continue reading

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That 80’s Vibe!

For those of you who are old enough to remember the 80’s, you well know that there are some things best forgotten. Like what, you ask? Allow me to remind you.

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The horror.  The horror.

I’m sorry I had to do that to you.  The big hair, the leg-warmers, the parachute pants and, of course, the massive shoulder pads are all things that most of us who lived through those dark times would rather forget. But there is one thing from the 80s that cannot be denied: the music! Yes, it was cheesy, but it was impossible to ignore and, let’s be honest, it was good! That’s why I just had to share this amazing transformation of the Game of Thrones theme song by Steve Duzz to a tune that would feel right at home in the 80’s.  Enjoy!

Liad Spiro

COO, Husband to CEO, Blinkbuggy user, and rehabilitated mullet-sporter

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