I must admit upfront that this post starts out a little heavy, but I hope you bear with me.
When I was 22 my dad died. It was sudden. I had just graduated college and was trying to figure out my way in the world. I remember the call from my brother telling me the news like it was yesterday, the shock of it, the hole it ripped in my world, the inescapable weight of the loss I felt.
I remember being told that as long as I remembered him, he would always be alive and with me and I do believe that, in essence, it is true. But as I get older and as the years since he passed continue to add up, my memories of my dad have started to fade. With each passing year, those that remain become less clear, less an accurate representation of who he really was and more a faded mosaic of distant and disparate memories that fit together loosely to form my current “memory” of him. I can look at pictures, see his face, see his smile and “remember” his great sense of humor but I can’t say that I really “know” him anymore. That’s a hard and upsetting thing to admit.
And then I remember that my dad lost his dad at the same age I was when I lost him. I can’t help but shiver when I look at my two beautiful children and think of that fact.
So now that we’re all good and depressed, you may be wondering whether I have a point. I do.
When Emma (my wife and founder of Blinkbuggy…my boss, I guess…or is that redundant?)… anyway, when Emma started to talk to me about her idea, I immediately and easily related to it as a parent. Recently though, while talking about my dad, I was made to realize, not only as a father but also as a son, just how deeply Blinkbuggy could go in helping connect the narratives of our lives. I realized that part of Blinkbuggy’s power is in its capacity to connect not only the memories of our present lives but also our lives past and future.
I started to wonder: What if my dad had been using Blinkbuggy? What if he had used it to capture snippets of our conversations, our family’s conversations, pictures of us, audio recordings, his thoughts and perhaps even memories of his own childhood and his parents, my grandparents? There is a whole period of his life – as a child, a teenager, a young adult figuring his way in the world as I was – that I’ll never know. Had he captured all these things together, even though he might still have passed sooner than I could have ever imagined, I would have, via Blinkbuggy, a “window” through which to look and see who he really was – how HE saw the world and his family, HIS sense of humor, HIS thoughts, HIS memories both as a father and as a son. I can only imagine how much deeper and clearer my memory of him would be today after these many years and how much more of him I might be able to see in myself.
And then I think of my children and my childrens’ children. How well will they really get to know me? Maybe, just maybe, with a little help from Blinkbuggy, they’ll get to know me very well… even after I’m gone. And their children and grandchildren will know them very well and on and on for generations to come (hopefully!).
That’s the gift we hope Blinkbuggy brings to our family and we wish the same for you and your family.
To all the dads out there, have a very Happy Father’s Day! (I hope I didn’t spoil the mood)
…and, as always, Happy Memories!
COO, Husband to Founder & CEO, Blinkbuggy user and Chief Depressing Officer (this post only!)